Can you tell me who you are?
I’m not asking you to tell me what your occupation is or the roles that you have in your life – I’m asking you who you really are as an individual.
Which of the following examples are similar to what you say when you introduce yourself to new people?
- Hello, my name is John and I have 3 brothers, 2 children and a wife.
- Hello, my name is John and I like to take photos of birds and to bicycle.
- Hello, my name is John and I am a division manager in a telecommunication company.
- Hello, my name is John and work as a division manager in a telecommunication company.
Maybe you need to read this twice to notice the difference between some of these sentences and then you probably start to wonder if it really matter!
Hopefully you will realize the difference after reading these following thoughts.
I want to start by asking you to what extent you identify yourself according to your roles in your life.
Even though you are a parent, sibling, spouse, friend, neighbor, coworker and such it is still very important that you remember who YOU really are.
In your conversations with other people, in all of those different roles and others, then it is very important that you have a clear view on yourself.
What are for example your values, what do you want to stand for, what is most important to you, what are your opinions, what do you like to do, what gives you energy, what food do you like and so on. Do you know the answers to this for you or do they only reflect the answers for the people around you? Of course you are always influenced by people around you but I encourage you to try not to get totally lost in them.
I would also like you to take a look at to what extent you identify yourself with your work and if you have enough differentiation between yourself as an individual and the work that you do – even though you may really enjoy your work and maybe prefer to stay at work all hours then it is very important that you have a life outside work.
The reasons are mostly two;
First because I think that by having a life outside work then you will over all have much better and more meaningful life.
Second, because individuals who have life outside work are often in many ways better employees than those who spend all their time at work and have no life outside it.
For example by taking part in social activities or do volunteer work then you will probably have communications with many different people which will increase your understanding on the diversity of the human nature and by that you will add to your skill in communication and add to your skill to work with different individuals.
By exercising or participating in any kind of sport, it will be more natural for you to set goals for yourself and not stop until you have reached them.
By having a hobby, like for example, photography, reading books, singing in a choir or poetry, you increase your creativity and therefore your ability to see things from more than one perspective and it also increases your ability to see solutions in new projects.
Hobbies outside work can also help you to free yourself from too much stress and enrich your life with more diversity and possibilities than your work probably can provide.
Hobbies and challenges outside work also decrease the possibility of a burnout at work.
Have you asked yourself whether you live for your work or if you work to live your life?
In my opinion it is always essential to know what it is that you want to do, what you like to do, in what direction you want to take your life and so on.
That’s why I ask you now if you are clear about these things in your life?
I want to encourage you to go over it in your mind or write it down on a piece of paper who you are – not what your work is or what your roles are but who you really are as an individual.