Do expectations lead to disappointment?
I know a lot of people that have all kinds of expectations of others.
And too many of them get very disappointed almost like on a regular basis, because their expectations were not met.
Does this apply to you as well?
I used to say that expectations were the best recipe for disappointment, but now I say this is all a matter of communication. If you want your expectations met you first have to communicate them.
And if you want to meet or exceed someone´s expectations you first have to know what expectations they have. You can find out simply by asking.
This applies to your family, friends, coworkers, boss (if you have one) etc.
Lift yourself with higher expectations towards yourself.
What kind of expectations do you have towards yourself, both in your private and professional life?
I sure do hope that you are not expecting you or your life to be perfect because only when you stop expecting yourself, and your life, to be perfect, you can like you for who you are.
So if I assume you are not having any ideas about perfection I still want you to have high expectations for you – and I have a reason for that.
Now let me share with you a short personal story.
Over the years I have fought a lack of self-confidence, not believing in myself and thinking I should just be thankful for what I had and where I was in my life, both in my private and professional life.
Not that there was anything wrong with my life and I sure had a lot to be thankful for.
But I never allowed myself to expect or believe it could be something more or different from what it was.
Then few years ago, when I went for my coaching studies, and was almost to the end of it, I and my fellow students were practicing our coaching skills on each other while the teachers observed.
During one of those sessions one of my fellow student was coaching me on my fright of going out with my business and being seen.
One of my teachers, a great Canadian lady, who had been observing this session of ours, talked to me afterwards. She said that from what she had seen from me in the program and from getting to know me during the months of the program, she believed I could do great things and she wanted me to go ahead, let my voice be heard and spread my feathers, so to speak.
I was like a thirsty person in a desert, drinking from a fountain that had just showed up in front of me.
This conversation we had did wonders for me, and has kept on doing so because I sometimes remind me of her words and drink from that fountain when thirsty.
I can tell you that I have flown higher and done greater things than I ever thought possible, just because of this talk – and I´m not done yet!
So please have expectations for yourself. Allow yourself to believe in yourself.
“Don’t lower your expectations to meet your performance. Raise your level of performance to meet your expectations. Expect the best of yourself, and then do what is necessary to make it a reality.” ~ Ralph Marston
Draw, paint or somehow make a picture of what you want. See it, feel it, smell it – expect it to come into reality. Then make all your decisions from where you want to be (instead of where you are at) and you might just become pleasantly surprised by the effect this will have for you.
Do this for yourself, your loved ones, your neighbors, your coworkers and just everybody around you. Lift them up by having great expectations of them.
“Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.” ~ Stephen R. Covey
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