As a speaker, trainer and a coach, I have met too many people that are not happy with their jobs.
They have mentioned various things as an explanation for not liking their jobs. Things like their bosses, their co-workers, their assignments at work and other similar things.
Most of them spend about 50 – 75% of their waking hours at work, or on work-related things.
Knowing that number makes this quite sad.
Usually, I ask them what would be the best solution for them. Often the first thing they say is “quitting my job”.
That may be the best solution in some cases.
But I tell them that nobody is going to make them happy at work, that their job satisfaction has to do with themselves, and remind them that they always take themselves with them to the next job….
Why are you not loving your job anymore?
I hope that you are experiencing high job satisfaction. I hope that you are in a job that you love, a job that you would not want to change a thing about. If so then maybe this post is not the most relevant one for you.
But if you are not having a great job satisfaction, if you are in a job that you do not love, or if that applies to someone you know, then this post may give you some ideas on things to consider.
To start with I assume here that when you took on your job, or when you started your business, it was something that you wanted to, something you chose.
So if you are not in love with it anymore, I want you to try to find out why that is, and if it is possible to turn things around.
If nothing comes out of that process then maybe it is time to choose again.
What you can do to love your job again – or at least like it a bit more.
First I want you to think about what you liked about your job in the beginning. Also what you may still like about your job. It is always good to think about that along with what you are about to do with the following lines. What does it take for you to experience job satisfaction? How much of it has to do with you and how much of it has to do with other things.
Now I want you to think about what you don´t like about your job and divide that up into two lists.
One list has to do with things you cannot change. Things that you may have to accept the way they are, or not.
The other list has to do with things you can change. Things you may need the courage to change, but at least you can change them.
– Knowing the difference between these two requires some wisdom that I know you have.
The things you cannot change.
A lot of things can go onto this list.
The wrong information you were given in the hiring process that raised expectations which will never be met. A bad boss or owner of the company. A vision, strategy or procedures, that you cannot have any say in, that you do not feel good about following. And all kinds of other things.
There are not many options on those things you cannot change – it is really just about accepting them, and don´t let them bother you anymore, or not.
You can think about if you can accept those things or change your attitude towards them.
Have they been bothering you from the beginning?
Are they starting to bother you more recently, and if so then why?
You can also communicate with your boss, or the owner of the company, and try to find out if there are ways to work around those issues.
The things you can change.
A lot of things can also go onto this list – many of which require some courage on your behalf to work on.
This may be you not feeling valued. You not knowing what your boss expects of you. You not knowing how you are evaluated. You having no say about your tasks or some other things along with that line.
What about yourself? You being the easiest, and also maybe the hardest thing to change. What can you do for your job satisfaction?
Are you happy with how you are doing your job? Is it maybe your own attitude, your own performance that explains why you are not happy in your job?
What you can do is:
- Communicate with your boss what it is that you want. Tell him/her how you think your skills and competencies can be of best use.
- Ask for feedback, from your boss, coworkers or customers.
- Measure your performance. It is important for you to know how you are doing on the job.
- Always make sure to be putting your best effort into your job. Stay ahead in your assignments. Be helpful to others. Work on your own energy and attitude that you bring to the workplace.
Then, of course, there is the possibility that this job is not in alignment with your purpose or your values.
Maybe you know that you are capable of more than this job requires but feel too comfortable in it to make any changes?
Maybe you are stuck with golden handcuffs and not willing to make any changes on the job front.
– Then you should at least make sure to be doing something on the home front, or in your community, that makes your days.
You put about 50-75% of all your waking hours into working or doing work related things. Therefore I want you to please stop wasting any more energy on thinking, or talking about how you don´t like your job.
You either turn things around for you – or you quit and start doing something else. What are you waiting for?
Whatever your conclusion I wish you all the best.
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