I´m pretty sure that we are all the same in that way that if we get a stone in our shoe we stop and remove it.
Also if we get a splinter in our finger, then we will not go on for long before we stop and remove it – right?
If we get a stone in our shoe then my guess we all react in a similar way and a process something like this starts:
- We get the feeling that there is something in our shoe that is bothering us, something is not like we want it to be
- We decide to stop for a while, get comfortable or grab for support and take a better look at what is going on
- We take off our shoe, look into it, remove it from the shoe, take a quick look at it and then we throw it away
- Then we might take some time to rub our foot, if we feel the need for it, before we put the shoe on again
- Then we start walking again, determined to reach the place we were going for
What about other areas of our lives, either at work or private-life – do we stop, look at them, change them or remove them? How long do you let them bother you or hurt you before you do something about it?
Let´s say that there is something bothering you at work – could have something to do with yourself, a co-worker, an assignment or something else. Could you maybe act in a similar ways as if you got a stone in your shoe?
Could you start a process something like this?
- You start feeling that there is something bothering you at work and that something is not like you want it to be
- You decide to stop, get comfortable to look at or think about things, maybe with a support from a friend, a co-worker or a coach
- You detach yourself from the matter at hand, try to look at it from the outside and various angles, look at all possible options, if you can in some way make any changes regarding this matter or maybe just your own opinion or attitude towards it, do what has to be done and then don´t let this bother you anymore
- Give your some time to recover, if you feel the need for that, before you start doing your job again
- Keep doing your job with the aim of reaching all the work-related goals you have set for yourself
In relation to all this I want to share with you a quick recent story of myself, where it took me a little while to stop and look at my options.
I was at a fairly nice hotel in Atlanta, GA. One morning when I was getting ready for the day, had just showered and went for drying my hair with a hairdryer.
When I plugged the hairdryer it immediately went on. I started to dry my hair and at the same time thinking what a lame hairdryer this was, barely “breathing“ at my hair, I would never get my hair dry with this hair-dryer and that this lame hair-dryer didn´t really fit in this fancy hotel.
Then all of a sudden a light-bulb went on in my head and I decided to stop and look at my options. I found out that the hair-dryer was set for “Low” and all I had to do was to use this obvious option right in from of me and set it for “High”! I laughed out loud at myself, alone in a hotel-room in Atlanta
Then when I turned the hair-dryer on again, set for “High” of course it was like my dream, my hair got dry right away and I was all set for the day ahead and all the assignments that it had in hand for me with a smile on my face.
Therefore I want to encourage you to stop regularly and have a look at your life, both private and professional. Look and see if everything is going like you want it to and if not check if there are possibly some options that you can utilize for yourself instead of going on the same way, unsatisfied and bitter.