Cheating on yourself is by no means better than cheating on others.
You are somebody´s role model, mentor, manager, mum or old man.
For your own sake and others, I want you to step into your own best self.
That is actually a part of your self-leadership, which you need before leading others.
As you know, I´m a firm believer in the importance of 360° Success.
Therefore, I want to tell you that you can do great things at work, and have the life you want – at the same time!
Cheating yourself at work stops now.
Cheating yourself is your choice. You can spend (or waste) some time trying to figure out why you do it. Or you can choose to stop it right now. Move on and show yourself, and others, your true colors and capabilities.
You can do this by stepping up in your current role. Start to use your time better. Focus on productivity. Stop procrastinating. Nurture your network better. Help others. Learn more. Grow into your best self.
But just to tell you a bit more about this. As you know I am an experienced private coach and a public speaker. Doing so I have worked with a lot of professionals. I have come to the conclusion that most people do this due to the following few reasons:
- They are afraid to rock the boat. They feel that everything is easy and comfortable as it is. They feel they know what they have but not what they will get.
This my friend may (or most likely will) lead to sad regrets later on.
- They think that everything they do has to be perfect. They feel that they are not enough. That they do not know enough. That they haven´t experienced enough…
Being perfectly imperfect is a great thing.
Late Zig Ziglar said:
Please remember that.
- They are afraid of outgrowing, or outshining, people they have worked with for a long time. They are afraid they will lose friends and that people will talk behind their back.
Don´t be afraid of doing well. Make sure to celebrate all your achievements and victories.
If your long time colleagues cannot celebrate with you, I suggest you find a new crowd to hang around with.
Cheating yourself in life stops now.
Do you know some grumpy (old) people?
My theory is that most grumpy people are most of all grumpy at themselves.
They are grumpy at themselves because they know they were capable of more. Grumpy because they didn´t dare, or allow themselves to be, do and have everything they know they were capable of.
They are grumpy because they didn´t do what they know they should have or wanted to.
- They may have been lazy.
- They may have procrastinated too much.
- They may have been scared.
- They may have wasted too much time with the wrong people.
Maybe the reasons don´t matter – and maybe it is not too late.
My friend BJ Gallagher once said:
Just beware of the fact that there is no day in your week called Someday.
So start right now, to do everything that you want to do.
To do the things you know you have to do – to be, do and have everything you are capable of.
This applies to your career. Your community. Your environment. Your Finances. Your Health and Your Relationships.
My book; Rekindling your spark: Strategy for better Self-Leadership is available on Amazon.
It includes various tips, tools and exercises.